Is your family
Quietly Pulling Away?
Advanced Leadership coaching
That changes what
matters most...
Attention Fathers:
You have a choice
🚫 Sit Back
🚫 Wish for Change
🚫 Play not to lose
OR
MAKE THE SHIFT…
Society wants men
on the sideline…
Here’s the
COLD HARD TRUTH
Tom Pfanner, Founder at Dads Who Lead
For better or worse:
you are the leader
of your home.
“My relationship with my kids has risen from the ashes.”
Lance Riggen, Tyler, TX
“I dropped Anti-Depressants after working with Thomas.”
Alex Eljizi, Naples, FL
Transforming your family
Why One-on-One Leadership Coaching?
Society is quick to dismiss the influence and importance of authentic masculine leadership. From a young age, we are conditioned to doubt our instincts and “just follow along.”
As a result, our families are out of balance, disconnected and starving for leadership. For years, the answer to teenagers who push back or drift off has been to take them to a therapist or medicate them.
Never looking at the root of how they have been created, and the skills they need to grow into the man or woman God has created them to become.
It’s time for change…
As the leader of your home, you can only take your family as far as they will follow you. Most men accept average.
Average job. Average fitness. Average sex. Average walk with God. Average connection. Average leadership…
It’s time to rise up.
“Before this program, my leadership was floundering…”
Chris Merz, Portland, OR
“Before, my daughters would hardly talk to me. Now we’re closer than ever!”
Damon Hysler, Jacksonville, FL
Leadership Rewired:
Coaching Roadmap
Phase 1 — Application
Click below. Apply for coaching and book a complimentary 20-minute leadership consultation with Tom Pfanner.
⬇️Apply today! Click below⬇️
Phase 2 — Analysis
During your meeting, we’ll unpack the specific challenges you're facing and lay out the roadmap to transform your connection and influence with your family.
Phase 3 — Rewiring
Tom will guide you through rewiring beliefs and patterns that hold you back from the potential you know is possible.
Phase 4- Skill Development
You will develop and sharpen the specific leadership attributes that will allow you to create a deeper connection and impact with your family.
And do it all with less time and effort.
Join North America’s #1
Father Son Experience
Tristin, 16
Prinville, Oregon
Tim GUrule
Las Vegas, Nevada
Victor Navaro
San Diego, CA
Jason Orr
Yankton, South Dakota
Bill Richmond
Beaverton, ORegon
Asher, 17
orange County, CA
Jay Butters
Sturgis, Michigan
Hank,12
Beaverton, Oregon
Caleb Beaudin
Oregon City, Oregon
Lance Riggen
Tyler, Texas
Chris Wegeleben
Tumwater, WAshington
Jarius, 17
Tyler, Texas
Chad Ludwig
Charlotte, N.C.
JT Sutherlin
PrinEville, Oregon
What Dads are saying…
Hi, my name is Thomas Pfanner,
I quit my job as a public educator to equip Dads to give their kids the connection and skills that makes the true difference in their kids’ life.
I’ve had my scars from the journey of fatherhood. Until a few years ago, my relationship with my teenage son was a daily struggle.
I would spend the night lying wide away questioning where I had taken a wrong turn. His body language and actions made it clear: He was pulling away from me as a leader.
I was frustrated because I knew his potential, but I wasn’t able to connect with him. I wasn’t able to be the guide for him I knew he needed. I was scared that my son would become a high school dropout, leaving our family and my marriage in ruins.
This changed when I discovered the power of transforming our connection through a common adventure.
A New Approach, with Old Roots…
In 2021, we launched our first Father-Son Retreat program to create a powerful transformation for Dads and their sons throughout the Pacific Northwest.
I’ve heard many Dads talk about wanting to improve their connection with their kids… But few are action-takers who are willing to invest their time learning, growing and exploring side by side with their son.
I want to personally invite you to join us this Summer on the adventure of a lifetime. As we launch our fourth year of events, returning families have claimed several spots already. We pride ourselves on impacting every family that goes through our program. Availability is extremely limited. If you’re ready to rewrite the story, take action and apply for your spot today. I look forward to talking soon.
All the best,
What is the Play to Win Expereince?
Less talk. More Action.
We fundamentally believe that men do not grow by talking across the kitchen table. We forge ourselves through taking action and overcoming challenges. This event is engineered for men who are willing to drop into adventure and lift up those around them.
There are only three ways to play the game of life:
Refusing to Play
Playing Not to Lose
Playing to Win
I want to see young men and women rise up to be strong, convicted men and women. I spent seven years as a public educator and I chose to leave because “the system” conditions kids to “play not to lose.” I begin to see kids’ spirits, creativity and identity being lost to conformity. Being lost to the mindset of: “Play it safe and follow the rules.”
Sadly these habits set young men up for failure. Though many kids are skilled in completing tasks for others, few sharpen the skill of harnessing their inner drive and the ability to lead themselves. Ultimately, the ability to be independent.
The numbers have been hidden from you…
Adults 18-29 live at home with their parents.
2020 US Census Data
I believe as men we are called to lead! We are at our best when we are the main character, writing our own story. To understand the mission that God has called us to and take action accordingly.
The “Play to Win Experience” is designed for young men and their fathers to gain clarity in their purpose, the obstacles we face as men, and the action necessary to win in the game of life.
“Life’s a Game. Play to Win.”
Purpose. Grit. Adventure.
Day 1 - On Your Purpose
On the first day, we kick things off with an outdoor adventure such as paintball, whitewater rafting or rock climbing. Adventure is at the root of everything we do. #1 It’s fun. #2 It’s how we connect as men. On the first day, we focus on setting a set our fix. Expect to answer the question: Exactly where am heading as a man and why does it matter?
Day 2 - The Obstacle
Following day two adventures, we will connect each physical challenge to an obstacle we face as men. Before we can conquer any problem we must first understand it. Our goal is never to glorify problems, but rather to look deep at the cause and result of the problems we face. But most importantly how we can overcome them as men in the 21st century.
Day 3 - the Road Ahead
The culmination of the weekend is always a powerful experience. Each man will take a closer look at where he is, where he wants to go and what stands in his way. Through the final adventure you and your son will uncover the actions you need to take to write the story you desire. Now you have a choice: stay on the path of the status quo or join us for the adventure of a lifetime! The choice is in your hands…
Join North America’s #1
Father Son Experience
Tristan, 16
Prineville, Oregon
Jason Orr
Yankton, South Dakota
Bill Richmond
Beaverton, ORegon
Jay Butters,
Sturgis, Michigan
Hank,12
Beaverton, Oregon
Caleb Beaudin
Oregon City, Oregon
Lance Riggen
Tyler, Texas
Jarius, 17
Tyler, Texas
JT Sutherlin
PrinEville, Oregon
CHris Wegeleben
Tumwater, Washington
What sons are saying…
What he’s up against:
52% of adults 18-29 Live with their parents. (US 2020 census)
The Average teen spends 7+ hours per day on their phone. (CDC 2023)
Teens average only 45 minutes with parents per day. (London 2020)
A rite of passage for young men has been lost for years…
Until now.
Here’s What You’ll Get:
3 Day All-inclusive Father-Son Retreat
We Cover
FOOD, LODGING, ADVENTURE & LEADERSHIP TRAINING
so you can focus on what matters most…
Connecting with your son on a deeper level.
Prevent Radical Teenage Rebellion.
Core memories to accelerate impact in your son’s life
Tools to pass down family values.
Unfiltered approach to navigating Technology and Social Change.
Tactics that give you and your son confidence to
WIN IN THE GAME OF LIFE.
What Dads are saying…
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